Create Your Automatic Yes and Automatic No
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Episode Show Notes: Create Your Automatic Yes and Automatic No
What do you do when that person walks up to you or group of people and they corner you and they ask you to make a commitment or an on the spot decision, what do you do?
Can you say no with a smile on your face?
Would you confidently say, “No thanks, I'm busy, I can't do it”?
Today's episode, we're going to break that myth that you can't say no and that you can say no with a smile on your face.
Do you want to learn how to pass the delegation test?
Want to finally protect your time so that you get more time to yourself to work on the things that are important to you?
Stop being walked on and taken advantage of by others who try and delegate and foist their priorities onto you and have you help them.
This typically happens because we have weaker boundaries than we should.
We can't make a firm decline, we can't say no with a smile on her face. What's the solution?
The solution to all of this is to create an automatic yes and an automatic no.
What is an automatic yes and an automatic no?
It's a concept that I developed a long time ago and it's been proven with my clients to help them have a firm no with a smile on their face. It stems from having a strong, solid plan. It's iron solid. It's impenetrable. You can't break through it.
When you know what your weekly plan is all about, it gives you the ability to have an automatic yes and an automatic no. There's this delegation filter that I talked about earlier. What happens there is people come up to you and they think, I'm going to ask Shane to take over the weekly report this week because I don't want to do it.
They rush up to you in the hallway, they phone you, or they text you and they ask if you can you do the report this week?
If you don't have a strong weekly plan, you will say, "sure, okay." Then you walk away and do the facepalm thing.
You ask, "why did I agree to that? I already have ten things going on this week."
I can't do the weekly report. That's somebody else's job. But I said yes and that's what happens to good people all the time. Enough is enough. Let's build a stronger weekly plan, put more emphasis on your weekly plan.
That's what this whole show is about to help you fit in the right things into your weekly plan. When somebody comes to you and says, "John, I need you to fill out the weekly report on Thursday, can you take that over for me?"
You with an automatic no by saying, "No, I can't."
You startle them. I can't do it on Thursday because I'm committed to working on the X, Y, Z project. I can't do it on Friday either because I've already been committed to the ABC project and I've got meetings with Bob and Mary.
If you would need me to do it this week, can you go talk to Bob and Mary and determine who needs me more? I'm happy to do something, but there's only one Shane. I can only be in one place at a time.
Put it back on them to be a collaborator.
Ninety-five percent of the time when somebody says or asks you the question, "Can you help me do this?" and you come back with a very firm, knowledgeable, "No, I can't." with a smile on your face, they believe you.
But if you second guess your decisions, they're all over you. They're pressuring you. The key to an automatic yes or an automatic no is to know your plan.
Your weekly plan also helps you say yes more often to because you can say, "Yes, absolutely, I can go to the concert on Thursday night. Yes, absolutely, I'd love to join the team meeting on Thursday morning."
That would be great. I'm excited. I've been wanting to work on that project. Yes. I'd love to do that kind of work. I've been looking to expand my skills and services. I'd love to join you in that kind of a project. And it opens doors of opportunity and it closes the door shut on the stuff that's just time wasting.
This is my excitement for you.
Time to accelerate your week with an automatic no.
Has your week been awesome so far?
Let's not waste that awesome energy. Let's not waste the power of awesome on fizzling out this week. Let's push down the gas pedal and get something remarkable accomplished.
The question for you right now is:
What will you do at the end of this week to celebrate a big accomplishment?
Sometimes you don't accomplish big things because you don't have a celebration lined up. I can tell you I told you in the last episode of This Week's Plan when I was talking about analog and digital stuff, I talked about fountain pens. I use fountain pens to mark big projects.
Every time I complete a big project, I go out and commemorate it by buying a fountain pen. Sometimes it's a twenty or thirty dollar fountain pen. Sometimes it's a little more expensive a pen depending on the project I believe in celebrating.
Your big accomplishment for the week could have been finishing off a report. It could have been getting to the next milestone in the project so that the projects on time and you don't have to celebrate with big retail purchases, but you can go and celebrate with a latte out.
You can celebrate by taking some extra free time on the weekend and just enjoying and binge watching a TV show or doing something with your family or your friends. You can buy yourself a book.
You can celebrate in a hundred different ways that can have a low to no cost value, but it should have some value on the fact that it anchors in the fact that you did something remarkable this week and you accomplished something great.
Has the week been a little less than you expected?
Have you turned left when you should have turned right?
Has something negative come out of the blue or something popped up that derailed your progress?
Were you caught up in doing busy work or emergency work?
That's okay. It happened. It's in the past.
Let's get refocused.
Let's focus your energy on pushing over your next domino of productivity.
At this point in the week where we you can still finish strong.
What can you say no to in the next 48 to 72 hours so that you can give an automatic yes to something amazing?
Most times with some notice, people are amenable to that. And they'll say, yeah, sure, great. Yeah, that would work good.
Ron's just as busy as you are. He's probably had a few twists and turns in his week. He may be open to that as well. It's just a matter of picking up the phone messaging or texting Ron and saying, "Hey, how do we negotiate this?"
Because even an extra half an hour, or an hour can really help you get an amazing result somewhere else so that you can finish the week strong.
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